Once you know what you want, you might see for yourself that you feel in a better place. Perhaps even less prone to depression. It may also become a way to turn around depressive feelings.
If you do the last step, I promise you that you’ll at least feel better about your life in general.
Ok, but what to do about the “sharp end” of depression – the depressive “lows”, and depression “attacks”?
Yes, there are different types of depression – anxiety depression, bipolar disorders, and more. Some may require drugs. But for most, drugs don’t really answer why this is a modern condition, and until recently, only something that occurred in the West.
I think it is important to have some sort of understanding why this all happened to you, and not others. If you were on a desert island, how would you deal with any depressive “attacks”?
Depression often comes about because our mind is left unoccupied, as we discovered before. Many depressive people are often creative, perfectionist, intelligent, or otherwise improvement-directed creatures.
With nothing external to fix and improve – hunting food or building castle defenses, say – I believe that our minds take all that energy it once needed and starts to tinker with itself.
Today, we are obsessed with inner perfection as much as we are of external perfection. It doesn’t get as much press. Like our muscles, hair, or clothes – we are continually drawn towards inner self improvement.
Depressed people are often particularly creative, intelligent and self-reflective. Everyone wants a perfect mind, right? Perfect happiness seems like it should be within our reach.
For many, depression starts in our early to mid teens. This is a time when we are becoming aware (often overly self aware). In the West, our minds also have the luxury of looking at itself.
In this state, we might push away negative feelings – feelings of inadequacy, or social anxiety, perhaps. If we are mentally tired, foggy, depressed, or sad, then – we think “we should improve this”. We should feel as perfect and neutral as we imagine everyone else is.
However, we are not able to fix these feelings. They always return.
For many, this is the start of depression. For the next time a bad feeling returns, it is one percent worse. We also have the fear of its return, increasing our levels of anxiety.
Simply, terrifyingly, we have the start of a very simple, sometimes deadly, loop. Merely by pushing away any bad feelings they return harder, starting a vicious cycle.
We grow to fear our own fear. Our fear begins to feed upon itself.
If you have seen Ghostbusters, try to think of the Stay Puft monster. Every time it is hit with weapons, it grows larger. A Medusa, too, grows several snakes for every one that it is cut off. We do it to ourselves, and it would be funny if it weren’t so serious.
Sometimes, the feelings can become so bad that a person is drawn to the ultimate act of desperation to change things – suicide.
I have written a simple fable to help explain this point and how to deal with it, which I hope to add soon.
All you need to know is depression sucks, but that it can be flicked off with a simple, counter-intuitive trick. There is no need for desperate actions, or despair.
Well then, what is it?